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I came across something, which as usual, I wanted to share with you.

As I was reading, I associated with everything I was reading, particularly about being just enough of everything. I think that the 3^rd step in the programme below is what will present the biggest challenge for us. It’s hard to disappoint others for so many reasons, but what struck me most is Every woman has a right to live their life on their own terms.

Susan Carrell, author of Escaping Toxic Guilt  shares her 5-step programme for letting go of guilt.

1. Be more Honest

“Learn how to be honest with yourself as well as friends, family and colleagues. Ask yourself “what do I really want and why?” Women learn over the course of their lives that putting others first doesn’t always work. By trying to accommodate everyone’s needs, women overstretch themselves. They become physically and emotional exhausted which, along with unnecessary stress, means they get the results they hoped for anyway.”

2. Recognise Your Worth

“It is essential to learn that your needs are just as important as anyone else’s, as this is the first step towards meeting them. Women often thin they are responsible for the happiness and success of others. We think that if we just love enough, are available enough, are encouraging enough and smart enough, our partners and children will turn out wonderfully. So, inevitably if they don’t, we feel it must be our fault. That’s a lie.”

3. Tolerate Dislike

“Remember that people won’t like it when you suddenly stop being so accommodating. It is easy to take on the emotional response of others, so you must prepare to tolerate disappointing them, rather than letting yourself down. Yes, a woman must be assertive to get ahead sometimes, but assertiveness in women is narrowly defined that it doesn’t take much to step over the line and be interpreted as aggressive.”

4. Break away from Ideals

“You will shoulder less everyday guilt if you can let go of your need for other people’s approval. Adverts suggest that we are supposed to be paragons of beauty and grace – lovely, thin, young and enticing to men – and society tells us we should simultaneously be able to switch easily between the roles expected of us. But remember, if women think they are supposed to be able to fulfill all those roles and then don’t, guilt is the result.”

5. Refuse Influence

“Learn how to protect your newfound freedom. I teach women that self-care doesn’t have to be regarded as a selfish or bad thing and, whatever their personal needs are, they are just as valid and important as anyone else’s. Every woman has a right to live their life on their own terms, but this isn’t something that everyone recognises. So, as obvious as it may seem, it is important to remind yourself that you have a right to happiness.”

Related posts:

1. Reiki Precepts – Living in the Present
2. Reiki Precept: “Earn Your Living Honestly”
3. Reiki Precept-Be Kind To Every Living Creature

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